Prayer for a Self-righteous Friend

Father, you know who I've been thinking a lot about for the past long while. You know them better than I do. But, Father, from what I've seen this person is being completely blindsided by pride, self-righteousness and spiritual arrogance. They're living like being a Christian is about knowing the Bible from cover to cover, praying every day, voting for the right political party, attending church and telling as many people about Jesus as possible. Papa, I know I'm nowhere near perfect myself and I'm extremely arrogant and conceited also, but this spiritual sibling seems to be oblivious to these qualities in themselves. They seem to have missed the gospel by a wide margin in his practical life. I pray for both this elder brother and myself today. Please make us humble. Grant that both of us would find complete rest in Jesus and that our lives would not be spent vainly pursuing things that we can never attain in our own strength. Please make us more like Jesus. Open my friend's eyes to how self-righteous they are, how deeply they hurt people through both behavior and words and how they alienate people from your grace by fighting battles that aren't worth fighting and showing grace only to those who repent beforehand. Please grant us the humility to become like Christ and lay aside all our rights in humble love and servitude. Help us to be concerned for the benefit of others, going to great inconvenience and suffering to love others. Change us to love like you have loved us, not requiring any change in us at all to win your affections but loving us when you were getting nothing back but anger and hatred. Thank you, Jesus, that you did not cling to any rights or demand that we respond adequately to your love for us. Help us to love like that. Amen.